I passed my Abortionersary and didn't even notice!
Occasionally my boyfriend or I will say, Remember when you/I was pregnant? It's usually me. And he's usually forgotten that it happened. Oh, yeah, he'll say. That was crazy, huh?
I believe this is a good thing. Our relationship was not damaged by that detour. The only mark it has left is my lack of yearning for a baby.
Not even my friend's beautiful, charming 3 year old gets my ovaries a-pumping.
There is a truly great quote that sums up the experience. It was a comment on my last posting.
Thanks, commenter.
No woman wants an abortion as she wants an ice cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal caught in a trap wants to gnaw off its own leg. ~Frederica Mathewes-Green
Damn right.
Happy Anniversary of freedom, Eve. Happy Anniversary of my choice.
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Hey, happy Abortionersary! Thanks for keeping this blog. I love that you have let us link to it so that women can find support and information from someone who's been there.
ReplyDeleteAlso, you know what's interesting? I love that quote as well, but the woman who wrote it was advocating AGAINST abortion rights. Her take on it was that women weren't freely and happily choosing abortion, they were resorting to abortion because their lives were desperate, and so instead of allowing abortion we should be better helping women have children. And that's why she's right but wrong.
Very interesting...she couldn't be more wrong...it's pretty neat that out of an opinion I disagree with, this fantastic metaphor was given as a gift to all of us.
ReplyDeleteMy second Abortionersary is coming up soon and I feel myself cracking up more than usual. It feels as though all the emotions I experienced 2 years ago are coming back to haunt me and I have no control over them whatsoever. How do I deal with this? I know I'm not the first and only person who is going through this and I know I'm certianly not the last. Any advice?
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ReplyDeleteIt's understandable that on an anniversary things that have been hanging around unresolved get more intense. It might be good to seriously consider getting help to resolve them more fully. My therapist has been greatly helpful to me, but here's a hotline for some people that are fantastic:
1-866-4 EXHALE
(1-866-439–4253)
http://www.4exhale.org/
I wish you all the best,
Eve
you may have aborted your only child....so sad!
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary. So glad you're safe and happy and healthy.
ReplyDeleteI just stumbled onto your blog. I just spent the last hour or so combing through it and I think you're an incredible woman. I love that are so many of us that are strong, and brave and honest and can talk about our thoughts about abortion. The truth is, that's what we need. Honest perspectives, good, bad and ugly.. as long as it's all true.
That's why I'm inviting you to submit to my blog ProchoiceThankyous.com. The goal of my project is to encourage pro-choicers to send their thanks to anyone that makes abortion possible in this world. Lord knows they have to deal with a tremendous amount of shit. It's nice to show them a little appreciation.
You can go to my site for more info or examples and of course you're welcome to email me.
Let me know what you think.
I had an abortion 12 years ago, while a junior in college. I have no regrets but when I bring up the abortion on anonymous sites or even to close friends, everyone acts appalled and like they want me to just shut up. How dare I speak of my abortion? Shouldn't I be curled up in the corner of a room somewhere crying over it til the day I die? Women must come out of the shadows. It's too bad when you do, the vultures are there to attack. But I won't hide anymore just because it makes some uncomfortable.
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