Thursday, December 10, 2009

1 out of 3 is you

Hey girl,

Of course, of course I'm not angry!
I wish you didn't have to go through this. I know your body is even more sensitive than mine, so I know you'll feel the changes that happen so quickly even more acutely. Our hips wanna pop out some kids, I guess!
I find it interesting that I never even asked if you were keeping it and you never brought up that possibility. We have so much stuff we need to do-- that we are meant to do--before we consider care of little ones (besides my cat).
If you want me to come with you I will. Having you there during my procedure meant the world to me.
Call me whenever. Tell me it sucks as many times as you want.
Dude. You're gonna be okay. Look at me! I'm fine. And it brought me and my boyfriend even closer together and I bet it will do the same for you. And ya know, as much as it sucked, I wouldn't take back any of it--although I will do everything in my power to prevent its happening again. It's one more experience we have to draw from. That's what this crazy life thing is all about; that's what we do.
Also, another plus for the surgical option is that you can now have an IUD put in right away (they started doing that just a couple of months after my abortion).
Let's have a fantastic vegan brunch tomorrow.




  1. This is an amazing show of support to your friend. I wish every friend were this warm and helpful in ohshitpregnancy crisis times! And after all the women I've worked with who were stood up on the day they needed a ride to the clinic, etc, or could think of no one to trust or even talk to, I can safely (but sadly) say that your friend is lucky to have someone like you. Heh, I guess what I'm trying to say is, good on you for being a decent human being!

  2. I got goosebumps reading this :-) what an amazing show of support